Kylie was FREAKIN' FANTASTIC! As I mentioned, Kylie is certainly not my all-time favorite but I do like her music. I would recommend her tour to anyone! It is a huge show with loads of production. She had 14 dancers, 4 acrobats and 7 costume and set changes. Her costumes were designed by Jean Paul Gautier and her shoes were freaking amazing. There was a Japanese Theme set, Cheerleaders, Ballroom Dancers, and she even rode in on a giant skull at one point.

Although we didn't rock our seat mojo this time and our seats weren't the greatest we still had an amazing time. I would definitely go back. Only downside... she didn't sing Red Blooded Woman. I've posted some clips on Youtube but the quality is baaaaad. Here she is singing my favorite song from the new album, 2 Hearts.



When she launched into The Copacabana I thought the crowd would explode...

Almost as if to prove that expat life can swing from one extreme to the other in merely a day, Andrew had the afternoon from hell yesterday. He picked me up in the afternoon do go sign some papers at the penthouse. As we neared our street we saw that the street we needed to drive down was blocked off for a market. I made a mental note that Thursdays were the day to check out the market and we detoured around. As we stopped at a red light, a scooter pulled alongside and said something in French. I didn’t hear him and Andrew took it to mean our car had been hit. Andrew racked his brain to figure out where someone could have run into our car without us noticing. As he pulled away from the light, the real meaning was clear. We had a flat.

We managed to pull into a small city gas station… I can’t even describe how these are not like gas stations in Canada… basically one tiny slot with 2 pumps and Andrew tried to get the spare on. It took some finagling (and a girl to check the instructions) but he got it changed and we were on our way (an hour late and slowly because it wasn’t a full-sized spare).

At the apartment things looked good. They are almost finished and I feel a bit better about the size of things, especially the terrace. Keys in hand and papers signed we went back to the car. The back small window was smashed. In 20 minutes someone had broken into the car. In our frustration over the tire, we hadn’t totally hidden the box that was in the back. Luckily the only thing taken was a next to useless old laptop. I panicked at first because I thought Andrew’s work laptop would be in there but luckily he left it at the office.

So on a tiny tire and with a smashed window we hobbled home. Andrew called the lease company who said he had to file a police report. Andrew called the police and was told to go to the station in Kortenberg only to find that you are only allowed to report a crime between 9 and 3. Note to criminals… after 3 you’re in the clear apparently. Belgium… you are not my friend today.

It’s no secret that I’m just a tiny bit obsessed with India. Just ask my Indian friends whom I’ve pestered with endless questions about their country. I’ve been planning my trip itinerary for years. So when fellow Canadian, Danielle Barkhouse, was looking for volunteers to review a book about her expat life in India, I jumped at the chance.

The Expat Arc is a collection of stories from the past year of Danie’s life in India with her husband, son and their dog. It begins with researching and organising their move from Illinois and moves through their settling in and coming to terms with life in India.

Danie claims on the back of her book “Don't read this if you're expecting deep insights on culture, politics or religion in India. Oh no. I'm far too shallow and lack the intelligence necessary for that. I'm not an expert about anything. I'm just here for a good time and amusing myself about it to stay sane.” The book is fun and light hearted, but I do think that Danie makes some interesting insights about life as an expat. As I was reading the book, I couldn’t help but relate to Danie’s struggles as an expat wife. Despite the differences in cultures, many of the feelings and frustrations were similar to those I had deal with moving to Belgium.

Danie says, "I have found that most expats don't really talk about culture shock. We all look at one another and know we're each going through it at some level. Some people will say they're fine, when they're really not. And then there's me. Let's just put it under a microscope, magnify the details and write about it! That's all this really is, a magnification of the details."

I recommend this book to anyone who has considered living abroad, or is living abroad now, (as well as family and friends of expats who wonder what the heck is going on in their heads). If you’re interested in an honest look at what expat life in India is all about, pick up The Expat Arc.  

In addition to letting me review The Expat Arc, Danie has graciously agreed to answer some of my questions about her life in India.

What was the first thing that went through your head when you found out you were moving to India?

We knew a move was coming.  We had lived in Illinois for three and a half years.  Every once in a while my husband would come home and say, “What would you think about China?”  A month later he would say, “How about Mexico?”  My way of coping is research.  I would hop onto the internet and look up housing, schooling and interest groups.  He came home another day, put a hand on each of my shoulders, looked me straight in the eye and said, “Forget China.  Start researching Bangalore.”  To which I replied, “Where’s Bangalore?”  Never heard of it.  Before I had a chance to research anything, we met his boss that night to talk about moving to India.  I’m an impulsive person so I say yes without really thinking of what yes really means.  We’ve been expats for thirteen years and I get itchy feet if I stay in one place for too long.  My first thought was that I was glad we were moving on to something new.  I was happy we were doing another foreign assignment and I don’t think I gave much thought, initially, to the fact that it was going to be Chennai, India.

Once I started to tell my family we were moving to India, each of them shared the first thing that was going through their heads. Maybe it’s a good thing you’re not interviewing my mom.

What has been the most challenging moment of your Indian life so far?

Just one?  I’ve had many new experiences in India, many of which have been way outside my comfort zone.  India has unleashed a diva from within me and that’s been a tough thing for me to face.  I didn’t know she existed and I didn’t like what it revealed about my character when she reared her ugly head.

In other countries, I would eat the food just about anywhere and I would check in to just about any hotel.  All of a sudden, I’m in India and I have a standard.  It made me feel like a snob, which induced much self-loathing.  That’s my greatest challenge here—calming my inner-diva.  That’s the side of me that struggles with the ugly side of India.  I’m not proud of it.

 
What has been the most rewarding moment?

As the mother of a third-culture-kid I’m forever hoping that when my son grows up he won’t hate us for schlepping him all around the world.  I think most expat moms fear their kids will need more therapy than the average angst-ridden young adult.  Not long ago, a friend of his was in the car with us.  I was listening to them chat in the back seat as it turned into a little counseling session.  My son, the experienced expat, was giving advice to the new expat kid.  He was explaining the Indian way with compassion and an understanding far beyond his years.  I was really impressed by what he was saying.  These were his own insightful words, not the words that I’ve used to hold him up with from time to time.  I was so proud of him for creating an understanding between two cultures.  It made me realize that he is well adjusted in India and growing into an exceptional young man. Isn’t that the only reward any mother can hope for?

What would you tell other expats who are considering a move to India?

In any circumstance, knowledge is power.  It’s important to read and research, not just India, but about being an expat.  I regret that I only read books about expatriation and repatriation years after I’d first expatriated and returned home.  I could have saved myself much heart ache if I’d known what to expect and what was normal.

As for India itself, I tell people the same three things my husband told me (the fourth one is all mine):

1) When you get frustrated, keep in mind that WE are what is different in India, not India itself.

2) Go with the flow or you can make yourself crazy going against the grain.

3) India has been the way it is for thousands of years. You won’t be changing it to "your way" in the short time you live here, so get over it.

4) A sense of humor and the ability to laugh at oneself helps.

If you could have one "luxury item" from home, readily available in India, what would it be?

I can hear all the expats in India shouting…

“Danie, tell her decent tampons!” 

“We want Bounce!”

“Bagels!”

“Brown sugar!”

It’s amazing how the small thing that we can’t have becomes an item of luxury status in our minds.  If I were to pick just one thing—oooh, so hard—I would have to pick a dog grooming service for my golden retriever’s inner-diva.  Who am I kidding?  I can’t choose just one.  I’d love to go bra shopping, too.  Ok, and maybe grab a Caramel Frappaccino along the way. 

Tough question.  Next!

Has being an expat changed you in any way? (why or why not?)

It doesn’t matter who you are, where you come from or where you move to, being an expat changes who you are.  How can it not? 

For example, I never noticed Indian people in the US until we decided to move to India--then they were on my radar.  It never once occurred to me the culture shock they must experience moving from India to America.  I get it now.  The more I travel the more aware I am.

Travel and expat experiences allow us to see the world—-and people--differently.  We don’t see things differently because the world has changed but because our experiences change how we view the world.

When did you decide to publish your story and how was the experience of making a book for you?

I didn’t plan to publish my story.  As the daily number of hits increased on my blog, readers were encouraging me to publish my stories.  My story takes place (this time) in India, but the steps of culture shock are universal.  Regardless of where we live, we all experience some level of culture shock.  We all bounce around the same steps.  I guess I wanted people to read my story and be able to feel better about their own, because chances are they’re handling it more gracefully than I did.

For the most part, I’ve enjoyed the experience of creating this book…in between the feelings of fear and self-doubt.  It’s been a good learning and growing process.  I’m thinking about what my next project will be.

What are you looking forward to?

In the short term, I’m looking forward to the end of the school year and taking a round-the-world trip with my son this summer.  Longer term…more travel, more adventure, more expat assignments and more writing in lieu of therapy.

I'd like to thank Danie for allowing me to review her book and pepper her with more questions about life in India. If you have any questions for Danie about her book or her life, leave them in the comments section or email them to me and Danie has agreed to stop by and answer them. Make sure you check out The Expat Arc on Amazon.

So the concert we booked back in January that I have been anticipating the most is tonight. I'm not even a huge Kylie fan, I like her music... it's fun and energetic but it's her show I'm most excited to see. It's big, loud, colourful and has lots of dancing. I know she'll sing her new songs and I can't wait to see 2 Hearts, Wow and In My Arms... But I'm really hoping for my older favorite...



PS: Can I look that good at 40? Um... Can I look that good now, Please?

A few months ago I joined a new online community for expats around the world, called Internations. I primarily joined to see what connections I could make with others living in Belgium. However, since the discussion of moving elsewhere is always on the back-burner for Andrew and I, I also spent some time looking into expats in India.

While on the forums I ‘met’ a fellow Canadian and serial expat, who is living with her family in Chennai, India for the next three years. Danie has been blogging since her arrival in India, over a year ago, and had also just published her experiences in a book called The Expat Arc. She was looking for other expats who might be interested in helping her promote it and I readily agreed.

This Thursday I will be posting a review of Danie’s book as well as some interview questions for her. Danie herself will be stopping by CheeseWeb to answer questions in the comment section of the blog.

If you have any questions about expat life in India, you can post them here or you can e-mail them to me. Either way, stop back on Thursday for more about Danie’s adventure in India.